16.} Might Be Funny If It Wasn't True

Many have harbored a worldview that they are

different from everyone else, but never dared tell anyone!

Their day-to-day squirm through life’s disorganized chaos in heedless

absorption leaves them questioning the curse of their troublesome lives

as others appear to live effortlessly, and even take theirs for granted!

Attention Deficit Disorder, Inattentive in type, unnoticed

commonly prevails unperceived beyond childhood.

But upon growing up,

this star-crossed

contradistinction soon leaves

adults in muddled puzzlement!

Will they forever be chronically late,

always rushed and in a hurry, frequently

overwhelmed by normal daily tasks, or unable to

stay at a job long enough to find and keep a friend?

Why can't they remember where they put their wallets,

cigarettes, or that goddamned bill that was due yesterday?

How can blurted thoughts from nowhere cause high anxiety?

When did they get so broke they can't even pay attention?

They seem not to be listening when spoken to directly.

ADD is one of 3 subtypes of ADHD in that it is

characterized primarily by inattention,

distractibility, disorganization,

procrastination, and

forgetfulness.

Often they

have difficulty

at concentrating

on conversations,

missed appointments

or obligations, become

distracted by activity or noise,

or simply getting lost in daydreams...

Teachers and parents make false assumptions

about behaviors and attitudes of children with ADD,

providing them with frequent and erroneous negative

feedback: "You're a lazy, fat glom who won't even

try because only a dim-witted moron keeps so

busy daydreaming to ever pay attention!"

As they progress into adulthood,

undiagnosed and untreated, their

inattentiveness, ongoing frustration and

poor self-image frequently create myriad

severe problems in maintaining relationships,

succeeding in graduate school or

in the workplace.

These problems

can compound

frustrations

with low

self-esteem,

and often lead to

the development of

correlative pathologies

like anxiety disorders,

sexual promiscuity,

mood disorders,

and substance

abuse.

Now

consider

the foundation

for such an adulthood,

constructed during childhood

under the evil eye of her Narcissism...

Characteristic traits of emotionally abusive mothers:

Verbal aggressiveness such as saying things

that scare or intimidate someone else.

A domineering presence that prevents

someone from having contact with

their family… and just because.

Emotional abuse is the

systematic diminishment of another.

The impact of emotional abuse does not

differ significantly from that of physical abuse.

It may be intentional or subconscious or both, but

it is always an ongoing occurrence, not a single event.

Abusive tactics are extreme and inconsistent insults, taunting

those who were lied to that previous incidents never occurred.

Abusers can be very manipulative, often recruiting friends, neighbors,

even a victim's family to their side, while shifting blame at the victim.

When family life consists of interpersonal violence many disorders develop

like chronic depression, anxiety, post-traumatic stress disorder, dissociation.

Emotional abuse is power and control defined by rejecting, degrading,

terrorizing, isolating, corrupting or exploiting and

denying emotional responsiveness.

Dominant behaviors can be;

ignoring harsh criticism,

coarse, loud yelling,

rudeness or

invalidating a

child's feelings;

all the way up to

deciding what the

victim’s role in life will be.

verbal aggression is name-calling,

ridicule, degradation, routine labeling,

public humiliation and excessive criticism,

inappropriate, overly excessive demands;

even the withholding of information!

Emotional abuse is characterized

by a pattern of behavior

occurring over time,

thus, sustained and

repetitive are crucial

components comprised

of emotional abuse defined.

Emotional Abusers cause fear and

intimidation by menacing children with

beatings, harm to pets, destruction of

property, isolation from family,

friends, school or work.

Abuse negates a child's

security and self-esteem,

and can bring risky behaviors,

withdrawal, difficulty making friends,

unstable job histories, substance abuse,

setting fires, animal cruelty,

and sometimes,

suicide.