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The closer
the relationship
between a victim
and abuser, the more
devastating the effects.
Of all types of maltreatment,
emotional is the most discreet.

Emotional abuse is characterized
as ceaseless negative messages
intended to demoralize a victim.
As the intensity, frequency and
duration of abuse increases,
so does the effect on the
psyche or any sense
of positive self.

Emotional
maltreatment is
not merely verbal abuse.
It is an attack on a victim's
internal and social development,
and a basic threat to healthy
human development.
Emotional Abuse
can take many forms.

Belittling:

Belittling results in
self-perceptions that mirror an
abuser's message of twisted words.
The victim's potential is limited by
their own sense of potential.

Coldness:

Children learn to interact with the world
through early interactions with caregivers.
In warm and loving environments, the world
is secure and a place to explore and learn.
A cold and hostile environment makes
the world seem harsh and uninviting.
Deprived confidence to learn or
explore prevents any beings'
intellectual and social
development,
impairing
future
relationships.

Cruelty:

Cruelty is more
evere than coldness,
but the results can be similar.
Children need to feel safe and be
loved in order to explore the world
around them and in order to learn
to form healthy relationships.
When children experience
cruelty from caregivers,
the world ceases to
appear safe and all
areas of learning
are hindered:
intellectual,
emotional
and social.

Extreme Inconsistency:

Through
consistent
interaction,
child and parent
will shape each other.
A child learns to trust that
needs will be met by others and
actions have consistent consequences.
This is the foundation for learning!
If a caretaker's responses are
consistently inconsistent,
the child never knows
what is expected,
which affects
all areas of
learning
during life.

Harassment:

Harassment has
similar effects to
those of belittling, but
also involves a stress response.
Harassment scares a child, and repeated
exposure to fear can alter a child physically,
lowering ability to deal with stressful situations.

Ignoring:

Ignoring,
either physically or psychologically,
the parent or caregiver is not
present to respond to a child.
He or she may not look at
the child or may not call
the child by name.
Ignoring a child
deprives them of
essential stimulation
and interaction necessary
for emotional, intellectual
and social development.

There are 3 types
of Inappropriate Control.

Inconsistent Control
Lack Of Control
Over-Control

Inconsistent
control causes
a host ofproblematic
behaviors from anxiety
and confusion to impairment
of one's intellectual development.
Lack of control puts children at risk
for danger or harm and denies them the
collective knowledge of human history.
Over-control denies the victim any
opportunity for self-assertion
or even development by
preventing the
exploration
of
the world around.

Isolating:

Isolating a child,
or cutting them off
from normal social experiences
prevents the forming of friendships
and can lead to depression.
Isolating seriously impairs
intellectual,
emotional and
social development.
Isolating is often accompanied by
other forms of emotional and physical abuse.

My brother & I
on Cherokee Street, mid-1960's.
At 32 years old, he hung himself.

Rejecting:

When a caretaker
rejects a child, the child's
self-image becomes negated,
showing that he or she has no value.
Children rejected by caretakers develop
ranges of disturbed, self-soothing behaviors.
Infants emotionally abandoned have no chance
of ever developing into a healthy adult.
Rejection is an active refusal to
respond to their needs by
refusing to touch,
denying the
needs of,
or
ridiculing.

Terrorizing:

Terrorizing,
like harassment,
evokes the stress
response in children.
Repeated evocation of
the stress response alters
the human body physically.
It lowers the ability to fight
disease and increases the risk
for stress-related ailments.
Physical effects aside, a
child living in terror has
no opportunity to
develop healthy
social skills
needed
for
survival.

There are 5 Types of
Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder.

Normal Stress Response
Acute Stress Disorder
Uncomplicated PTSD
Comorbid PTSD
Complex PTSD

Normal Stress Response:

The normal stress response
occurs when healthy persons
who have been exposed to a discrete,
traumatic event experience intense bad
memories, emotional numbing, feelings
of unreality, being cut off from
relationships or bodily
tension and distress.
Such individuals can
achieve recovery
within a few
weeks.

Acute Stress Disorder:

Acute Stress Disorder is
defined by suspiciousness,
confusion, dissociation, insomnia,
feelings of panic, and inability to manage
basic self care, work, and relationship activities.
Mostly small numbers of single-event trauma victims
have this more severe type, except when the trauma
is a lasting catastrophe that exposes one to destruction,
death, or loss of home and community.

Uncomplicated PTSD:
Uncomplicated PTSD involves persistently re-experiencing
the traumatic event, avoidance of stimuli associated with the
trauma, emotional numbing, and symptoms of increased arousal.

Comorbid PTSD:

PTSD comorbid with other psychiatric disorders is actually
more common than uncomplicated PTSD and is usually
associated with at least one other major psychiatric
disorder such as depression, alcohol and substance
abuse, panic disorder, plus other anxiety disorders.

Complex PTSD:

Complex PTSD, also known as
the "Disorder of Extreme Stress",
is found among individuals who have
been exposed to prolonged traumatic events,
especially in childhood, such as childhood sexual abuse.
These individuals often are diagnosed with borderline
antisocial personality or dissociative  disorders.
They exhibit behavioral difficulties, such as
impulsivity, aggression, sexual acting out,
eating disorders, alcohol or drug abuse,
and other self-destructive behaviors.
They may also suffer from extreme
emotional difficulties such as
intense rage, depression or
panic, mental difficulties
such as fragmented
thought,
dissociation,
and amnesia...